In my teens, I waited by the phone for a boy, any boy, to call.
In my twenties it was all high drama, getting my heart broken and dating rotters.
Reach back two decades and you are more likely to find a man who can’t fathom swiping through a series of pictures to find a mate for the night.
My friend Gabrielle met her boyfriend at a restaurant opening. just clearly don’t care.” The stereotypes, she says, are true: Older men are attentive, they aren’t threatened by your career success, they didn’t grow up watching porn on their laptops, and they certainly don’t expect sex from you before you’ve even had a chance to meet.
Those who remain married into their fifth decade can sometimes wear their marriage like a status symbol. Thrice-married actress Kim Cattrall, who celebrated her 60th birthday this year, says of her single status: “You know so much more about what you want and what you don’t want and what you’ll put up with.
I feel in that area, romantically, retired.”I did register with a well-known online dating site a while back. The only “matches” that came back were men 10 to 15 years older than me.
Her life was completely uncompromised and I can entirely relate to her contentment. As a nutritionist and hypnotherapist, I see many fiftysomething women.It’s all pretty inconceivable in the long term, and yet it’s happening all the same.That’s how badly women want to escape the Tinderverse.After divorce number two, my eldest made me promise “no more step-dads”. Or maybe our patience for bad or boring behaviour is lessened by the ebbing of a biological need or ability to reproduce.But, even if that were an option (having teen children is a pretty good boyfriend repellent, I find), I am still very, very picky. It certainly takes courage to be single in your fifties. Twice-divorced Carol Vorderman, 55, recently talked about being “happily single” saying that she was finally revelling in doing her own thing and running on her own “clock”.Being single in my fifties feels like I’ve finally got myself back.There is such a joy to being able to do whatever you want without permission.Of course, having three children, aged nine, 13 and 16, does clip my wings a bit.And indeed, concern for them is another important factor in why I am not flinging myself at the first available man.New figures from the Office For National Statistics show that while the divorce rate continues to fall overall, the trend is not mirrored by the over-fifties.We are now the only group whose divorce rate is actually rising.