That’s a little trickier, especially in this digital age when so much “conversation” is done via text, e-mail, and so on.
Next, ask a follow-up question or comment on what they just said.It means dating someone who meets the values and goals you have for a future spouse (more on that later). Casual or purposeless dating has no benefit for Christians. We are designed to know why we do stuff and where we are going. Now, please, please, please don’t be a freakish weirdo. It involves sharing personal struggles and vulnerability. If you believe God is preparing you for foreign missions, is it important the person you marry shares this passion? If you love the Cowboys and your future spouse loves the Packers, is it important to work through this before marriage? Like that annoying kid at church camp who wouldn’t leave you alone. Don’t ever date someone who won’t honor purity with you. Remember…if you are dating, you haven’t entered into the sacred bond of marriage. Co-dependent dating leads to co-dependent marriages. And co-dependent marriages eventually crumble because the weight on them is too heavy. In fact, every principle discussed in this article is null and void without God at the center. The first instance in the Bible where God is not pleased comes when God sees Adam living in the Garden of Eden alone (Gen. Singleness can be a gift from God, but don’t use it as an excuse to be lazy. And to my church’s credit, they drilled this one point home constantly. Dating and marriage are not for those who rely on another person for joy, peace, and purpose. People like to gobble them up” (Proverbs 18:8), those nuggets of scandal lead to indigestion and infection. She's a serious foodie and not-so-serious gardener who is determined not to let being single stand in the way of living an amazing life.Besides, if someone is going say ugly things about another person you to the next person? After a while I tuned out and entertained myself placing mental bets on how much longer they’d be able to go before passing out due to lack of oxygen. On the other hand, when someone tosses you a conversational ball, do your part to keep it moving. I really do not think my comments are more important than yours, I just get excited and want to chime in. Some things are best saved for your mom, therapist, or BFF. SEE ALSO: The Single Life: Packing for Success Do recognize that no matter what you do, some people aren’t going to play. Some people will be rude, possibly even downright offensive.There’s certainly nothing wrong with sharing an observation or story, just don’t drone on and on. Even if you’re engaged in listening, the talker will appreciate some sign that you’re still awake and alert. You don’t have to keep talking to them, but try not to respond in kind. If you have a less-than-positive experience, shake it off and get back in the game.It is time for Christians to start talking about dating. Establishing principles for Christian dating will set men and women on a course towards Christ-centered marriages. Here are 10 important principles for Christian dating. That would make God a gambler, and the Bible clearly says gambling is from the devil (only joking). Marriage isn’t as much about finding someone totally compatible as it is about committing to someone despites difficulties and differences. I fear this mentality in the dating culture is actually promoting divorce. Suddenly, when marriage begins, you are asked to flip a switch. It allows you to jump into marriage with a clear conscience. The trajectory of lives and eternities are in the balance. Laying out guidelines for dating as followers of Jesus will alter lives by keeping people out of toxic and unhealthy relationships (and ultimately marriages). “The one” says you need to find the perfect person. The beauty of marriage is God sustains you despite your flaws. The shells of a shotgun are stuffed with tiny round balls. You are asked to go from a mentality that says “End a relationship as soon as difficulty arises,” to one that says, “Don’t end the relationship regardless of the difficulty that arises.” That’s a tough switch to flip.