Sure, don't go full DEFINE THE RELATIONSHIP too early, but there's nothing wrong with checking in with whether or not they're seeing others, or communicating that you are still seeing others.
Or at least communicating early on you are ultimately looking for something serious.
Some fraction of these will respond, and some fraction of those will lead to a date. What's really throwing me is the right time to assume things are exclusive. I think communication is really important, and in an LTR I'm all over it.
It's up to them whether they want to adjust or not.
It's also up to them to communicate the same to you.
If I just focus on one, I feel like I'm setting myself up for the same pattern. But I've heard the fastest way to kill a relationship is to take its temperature (or something like that).
But is it skeevy to stay active on OKC, to keep talking and going on other dates? And it seems to me there's truth to this, especially in the first few dates. " seems shitty to say, and I'm really worried about women being hurt.