“Like, when guys approach you and say, ‘Smile,’ ” said Connie Chen, 33, of Williamsburg.
“It may not be harassment, but it’s sexist.” “I don’t consider flirtatious jokes or comments sexual harassment,” said Bonnie, 42, an Upper East Side dental hygienist.
when they have access to it and are free of their own fears. Those fears are greater now more than ever really since there’s an entire industry devoted to making sure men and women are wrought with insecurities so they buy products (sowing in and agitating tiny insecurities is the bread and butter of the marketing world).
A major fear is being lied to deceived which brings me to the main question of this article: Why do men lie? I’m talking about human nature – no one gender is more or less habitually a “liar”.
In order to have a truly fulfilling relationship (or even start a healthy relationship) with a great guy, you need to come from a place of strength, confidence, and fulfillment.To address this conundrum, I interviewed straight, single New York City women and spoke with more than 20, of diverse races, backgrounds and occupations, between the ages of 22 and 50.At a time when many feel that real romance has suffered a major blow due to the explosion of dating apps with their illusion of unlimited companionship at a click, as well as proliferation of online pornography, some say there could be a downside for single women in today’s heightened — some might say hyper — focus on sexual harassment.On the one hand, we welcome legal protections in the workplace, and many of us also welcome the increased awareness of sexual harassment that media coverage and the #Me Too campaigns have spurred.In the words of one of the 20 women I’ve interviewed on this topic in recent weeks, “It’s about time.” On the other hand, some of us privately wonder: Does the bitter battle of the sexes playing out incessantly across our TV screens and social-media platforms have a potential downside, especially for singles who truly want to connect?Whenever a relationship goes sour (or fails to launch), it’s almost always caused by some tiny fear, doubt, worry or insecurity that grows and festers until you feel overwhelmed by the whole ordeal. Your fears and worries compel you to confirm whether they’re real or imaginary.You stop enjoying the relationship for what it is and start craving validation and confirmation that it’s “the real deal.” And there’s only one thing that manifests from that place… QUIZ: Are You Accidentally Destroying Your Love Life?“If I say it makes me uncomfortable and you won’t stop, or you touch me [without consent], that’s another story.“I think there’s a lot of gray area because there’s a big difference between the way men and women think,” she added.Any man who doesn’t know the difference between harassment and flirtation is a troglodyte, say some, and when it comes to abuse or egregious forms of harassment, that is certainly true.But when it comes to sincere efforts to approach a woman romantically, there is another, practical truth: What one woman considers annoyance or even mild harassment, another might consider harmless flirtation, or even seduction. Yet at a time when unwelcome advances are increasingly stigmatized, how is one to know in advance what type of approach is likely to be well received?