She may subconsciously acknowledge you as a challenge.
Single mothers might time and again try to draw sympathy by victimising themselves in the eyes of their son, in order to gain his attention, often holding you or situations related to you and your boyfriend responsible for her condition. Yes every child is; but in this case the child has felt the absence of the father and has hence valued the single parent even better than a child having both the parents would. Hence being a girlfriend it can be pretty difficult for you to play the same role that his mother has played in his life.
She almost always looks for compensation of her husband’s absence in her son, making the son liable for her sentiments and expects him to shoulder responsibilities that are practically meant to be shouldered by the husband.
It is because a single mother equates her husband’s role to her son’s is why she has the constant fear of losing her son and sole support to another woman so that she is left by herself; insecure and lonely.
He will be constantly searching for his mother’s traits in you and he may end up comparing, often without realising and acknowledging you for being a different person altogether.
Psychology says that a child raised by single parents tend to be more sensitive and thus a little more demanding than those raised by both parents, because they feel that they have always been deprived, so it can be difficult for you to keep up to his expectations.
He might not be able to acquire a balance between the two relationships as is ideally expected, unless there is proper support from both the sides.
It seemed as if my friend's instincts were off, I thought. Earlier in our meeting, Bob described moving to the area as a 30-year-old in 1978 – the year I was born.
But just as I was about to leave, Bob admitted that he was not that interested in me as a writing coach, but as a romantic prospect. Yet when I rejected him, he looked stung and startled, as though he was completely unaware of our significant age difference.
I met Bob at a restaurant on a summer afternoon in 2014.
I was enjoying a glass of white wine and sharing an entree with a good friend when he sat down next to us at the bar.