Thankfully, there is an option for “Neither, both are bad,” so maybe the query originated with someone who isn’t a sociopath.
Please, please, please tell me that this question wasn’t posed by someone who is seeking a partner that is okay with “Once a week or less” and who might be okay with someone who answered “A couple times a week.” I picture an army of hippies doused in patchouli, arm in arm and it makes me want to gag. I’m an editor, and if you can’t tell the difference between "there," "their" and "they’re," please do not apply. Who has been a) on a date with someone whose idea of dinner out was the plastic cans behind IHOP; or b) thinks that such a date is their idea of a good time?
There's nothing wrong with a little flirting, but coming straight out with a sex-related inquiry is untactful. Feel free to explore (and avoid) some of these questions, but make sure your first priority is having a good time.There are some questions you should steer clear of on a first date – you may ask them further down the line if a relationship develops – but when you first meet, they could affect the success of the date. Questions about marriage The first date is an opportunity for you to get to know each other and discover whether there’s that essential ‘spark’ between you.If you launch straight into questions about marriage and commitment you might scare your date off. It’s the question we all want to know the answer to but the one you should never ask.MORE: Top 6 Mobile Dating Apps While this is a weird question in the sense that it tells you nothing about a person’s personality, if you answered 89547, I’d probably consider a date with you. But this one is clearly targeting that same guy who wants to know if I feel an obligation to shave my legs.I don’t “let it grow, wild & free” nor “occasionally trim,” but I’ll bet there’s a manimal out there who would love to find someone who’s growing a forest.And if you follow that logic to its conclusion, stupid people should be neutered.Wouldn’t it make more sense to castrate rapists and pedophiles? As a tech nerd, clearly I think of “cellular phone.” But I’m guessing the dater behind this question is most concerned with those that think “jail cell,” not those that answer “biology.” So how many jailbirds did that person have to meet through OKCupid to warrant asking this?Here are five questions you should definitely ask on a first date: 1. Going beyond asking about work and home life, this can tell you a lot about a person. Talking about dreams is intimate and open at the same time, and allows someone to truly express him/herself. What is the most incredible place you've ever been to? This can tell you a lot about a person's past and present, without getting too personal. On the other hand, here are five questions you definitely want to stay away from: 1. Discussing old relationships has no real place in a first date. This question opens up new avenues for discussion, inviting your date to consider all the places he/she has been. I have to think that the person asking this question is looking for someone who answers “Yes, it would,” not “No, it wouldn’t.” And that, quite simply, is terrifying. Both options, I think most normal people would agree, are terrible.I hope this person has been ejected from the dating pool because they are probably the sort of person who would skin you and wear your body as a suit. But those that check the box for “Neither, both are good” are seriously twisted human beings and shouldn’t be allowed in any situation where procreation might result.